Individual contributions, no matter the level, benefit The Bridge’s ability to offer life-changing programs to southeast Harris County’s women, men and children in crisis. From utilities to education materials to salaries for hotline staff, your gift will fund an integral aspect of The Bridge. The following list demonstrates the volume of services The Bridge was able to provide due to our generous funders and individual donors like you.
98% of children ages 3-17 participating for 30 days or more increased healthy coping skills as evidenced by the ability to identify and manage their emotions.
100% of children ages 5-17 who attended meetings with the Children’s Advocate increased their knowledge of healthy relationships and personal safety.
100% of children in childcare for 30 days or more increased their developmental skills (cognitive, emotional, social, or physical).
94% of women gained strategies for enhancing their safety.
80% of women increased their awareness of community resources.
74% of women reported decreased feelings of isolation.
Youth Healthy Relationships Program
77% of students increased their knowledge of dynamics of family violence, teen dating violence,
and sexual violence
70% increased skills necessary build healthy relationships and avoid abuse (i.e. communication, boundaries)
100% of students received informational material on healthy relationships and crisis resources
This story is told from a mother’s point of view while at the same time showing how children’s lives change. The journey to safety and recovery from violence takes place over days, weeks, and years.
“Hello my name is K. and I am the mother of three children. I would like to share our story. When I was 19, I married and we started having children. As the years went by, I noticed that our relationship was changing. I thought I could change him back to who he was if I held on a little longer. Then we found out that he was bi-polar. I felt there was no way I could leave him at his time of need. However, he refused to take his medication and without it, he started to get physically and mentally abusive, he started cheating on me and was always putting me down. We would move around a lot because of his job. I had no contact with my family because he slowly pulled me away from them. He separated me from them without me even knowing. He became all I had and all I knew. For eleven years I put up with the abuse until I had enough and with a few dollars in my pocket I took my kids, our clothes, and left to move in with my mom.
After everything that had happened with the children’s father, I never thought that I could ever love again or find someone who would accept me. As time went by, I met this guy that was nice and little by little we started to date. Everything seemed almost too perfect. At this same time, my mom needed to move to another city to take care of my grandmother. Since I depended on my mother to help me with the children, I felt I was in a jam. I didn’t want to take my kids out of school and I did not want to stop working. I shared my concerns with my boyfriend and we decided to move in together. He started getting jealous, angry and he started drinking. He then started to become abusive towards me sexually and physically. I ended up having two atopic pregnancies. I felt we couldn’t leave because we had nowhere else to go. In Feb 2014, while he was at work, my oldest daughter told me that she didn’t want to live with him anymore. I asked, “Why, what was wrong?” She didn’t want to say and then she started to cry. After I sent her brother and her sister to the next room she was able to disclose to me that the bastard molested her. He made her do sexual things that she didn’t want to do. The worst thing I found out was that it happened more than once and she didn’t want to say anything because she didn’t want us to get into a fight. I felt so disgusted and I hated myself for not being there to protect her. I never wanted to live in a shelter, especially taking my children to one, but I felt I had no choice. I had to get my children to a safe place. We all were so nervous, scared, and shy.
The Bridge staff was able to help me file a police report regarding the sexual abuse of my daughter. Her abuser was locked up but my child was damaged by the abuse. My entire family started receiving counseling services to help us cope with the losses. After four months of living in the shelter, I was able to get an apartment at Destiny Village. We continued to get counseling and much needed support. In May, I got a call from Habitat for Humanity to see if I wanted a home. I was excited and I believed I screamed “YES!” It is now February and my home is almost competed. It is should be ready by the end of March. In addition, I have a new position that I will start in March at a new full time job that I had gotten a year ago! If there is anything I learned from The Bridge and Destiny staff, it is that you never give up, never think you can’t, always remember you’re not alone and there is help… just don’t be afraid to ask, and “NEVER” let anyone put you down. One thing I always say now is, ‘YOU GOT THIS! THERE IS NOTHING I CAN’T DO IF I PUT MY MIND TO IT’!.
I want to take this time to thank everyone that has helped me and my family to get where we are now, Thank you to all: from the people behind the curtains, to the counselors, to the daycare staff and last but not the least to the caseworkers for helping me push forward and not letting me give up. “THANKS” from the bottom of our hearts!”